Dating can be, to put it delicately…difficult. Those first dates tend to be the most awkward because, well, they are the first ones. What are the expectations when it comes to who picks up the check?
The idea of “tradition” is well outdated, such as the idea that the man should pay. Also suggesting that the man should always pay is also also a bit alienating. What if there are two men on the date? Two women? Or what about two people who don’t identify as either gender? The rules have changed, if there are any more actual “rules” in the first place.
With that said, let’s discuss who “should” pay.
Let’s start off with some stats. The advertising agency, Leo Burnett, conducted an exhaustive study on the state of relationships today. According to the study, only 68 percent of men treat on the first date.
So if 32 percent of men are letting women pick up the tab, there are several contributing factors. For some, it’s an economic issue—especially for men rebuilding financially after a divorce. For many women, they find it more comfortable to reach for a check than to have an awkward conversation. Plus, in some respects, people are still finding their way in a world where the women’s movement has come a very long way in a relatively short time and many women actually out-earn the men who would seek to date them. In any event, it’s factors like these and many more that add up to a lot of confusion and this gray area. This relates to a “typical” dating scenario.